10 advantages of traveling alone with a young child

by Marilia Di Cesare on March 14, 2011

I get so excited to see my young daughter having this kind of experience

My last post was a bit negative and you know I´m not like that at all. Sure feeling overwhelmed at times is part of life and I´m no different than anyone on this, but since I´m always aware of looking at things the way I want, I thought it would be convenient to stress on the advantages of traveling alone with a young child.

Just like the disadvantages, the advantages can be pretty much applied to everyday life, not simply traveling. But traveling makes some of the things more apparent. Here are some reasons why it´s really nice to travel with a 3-year old:

1. A healthy life-style – while traveling with a child, you will fall into the healthy living of sleeping and waking up early and eating the healthiest food available. When traveling child-free, you might fall into drinking beer everyday at the beach, but with a child, you will much prefer juice that you can both share, plus you need the energy to keep up the pace of your child, so keeping healthy it´s really not an option.

2. Looking at things you would never do otherwise – the child will make you stop to look at colorful insects, flowers, tiny red frogs, other children and a variety of experiences will happen that wouldn´t if you were child-free. You need to take breaks more often, sit and talk to someone next to you. Often, these pauses between activities will offer you discoveries in them, like that local attracted to your child who then shares a bit of their life to you or you choosing child entertaining attractions like monkey parks and botanical gardens that maybe wouldn´t be on your regular planning.

3. Keeping it slow – I´m sure you can plan an hectic trip with your little one in tow, but it´s advisable that you take time to be in places and make a few routines before leaving, like greeting the few people you´ve met to make the transitions easier to understand for the child. This means you´ll see less places, but you´ll feel the atmosphere of each place more deeply.

4. Keeping it simple – the less moves and changes of transportations, the easier to be on the road. One bus a day, sleeping over and then moving again the next day might be simpler to handle with bags and a child. Looking less for places, going to the closer attractions, searching more of the actual area you are in. Sometimes while child-free, you feel like experiencing it all, traveling extra miles once you are ¨so close¨ to other attractions. With a child, you prefer to stay in the zone and explore all you can in a given perimeter.

5. Seeing more smiles and help around you – the younger the child, the more commotion you get when traveling alone and more people trying to help you. It´s very unlikely that people will let you drop of a bus while holding a sleepy baby without helping you with your bags and directions, you hardly have to ask. At least in the places I´ve been with Luísa (Brazil, Italy, Chile and Costa Rica), people usually smile and engage in some playing with her.

6. Splitting dishes at restaurants – I only order one plate for me and my 3-year old anywhere we go. One plate and two drinks is a sweet economic deal.

7- Easy Access – cutting lines at customs, being the first off a taxi-boat and stuff like this is quite nice.

8. The younger, the cheaper – from 0 – 2 children don´t pay the airfare, any other transportation or accommodations. While still breastfeeding (if you are a mom doing this) you save up on buying food on the road. This is huge to consider and why I went to visit my family in Italy and Chile before Luísa turned two.

9. Both you and the child needing to make new friends – At all our stops I look for places with more children for Luísa to hang out with. I end up making friends among the parents of those children and so we both have appropriate age new mates to be with. If you are a family traveling with more than one child, I´m sure at many places you can chill within just you. If you are traveling with a mate, you meet less people on the road. Only when traveling alone, or alone with a child, I think you make meeting people more frequent.

10. The language learning and cultural immersion happens so fast – The biggest reason that made me go on this long trip abroad with my 3-year old was so that she could pick up easily on another language. Here in Costa Rica, she is picking up on both English and Spanish. The first month we were on the go and only by playing here and there with other children and listening to me talking to other people she was already picking up their language. At our second month, she started going to school in the morning, she is speaking a lot of both Spanish and English already.

As you can see, there are many good things about being on the road with a young child, I could keep numbering a few more, but 10 is good enough for one post. It can be tough at times, but the advantages are much bigger than the disadvantages.

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fabiana March 15, 2011 at 10:10 pm

Marília, adorei esse post. Acabei de voltar da Chapada dos Guimarães com o Nino e foi incrível. Foi muito legal porque eu também estava vendo aquilo pela primeira vez…então, fui criança junto com ele. É lindo aprender junto com seu filho. beijos

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Joan May 28, 2011 at 6:49 pm

Hi Marilia!!
I love your blog :-) I’m a single mom too, over here in good old Europe. I love your positive thinking, and can totally follow you on the challenges of raising a child alone (and also over the fact that conventional parenting sucks!! ;-DD as well as positive discipline, sounds SO interesting! I totally follow you in your example of spilling the drink everywhere! ;-DD feels so good to read I’m not the only one :-) )). My little girl is 4 1/2 years old! Just a few months older than yours, lovely.
I plan to go “tripping” ;-) myself, on a tour through S-E Asia from November, I’m searching the web to see if someone could be as crazy as that! ;-) Yes it feels like a crazy idea, I’m wondering if I’m nuts, at least that’s what my mother’s accusing me of! ;-) But I’ve been wanting to travel all my life and never did it. I thought we’d travel with her father, I’ve always waited to find Mr Right so I could travel with him, and I ended up alone with a little girl, he proved to be unreliable and ran away :-( So I thought: “stop waiting for someone to go with you, pack your things together, and just do it!” I understood at some point that I can’t rule out the risks, I’m gonna have to take them, that’s what travelling is also about… And yes, I do think that being a single mom makes it harder for me to live the way I want, and I hate that, but now I’ve decided that I’m gonna do it anyway! ;-)

Still I am afraid of getting sick along the way, I think that’d be the worst case scenario… Any experience with that? any creative advice? ;-) I know Mom T had and was happy Z is already nine… What about you?
But I’ve been sick over here too, with no one to help me, it’s been like hell, but I survived ;-) (although I healed quite fast, which could be not the case with a tropical disease) I follow you when you say it’s not a big difference between being at home and travelling. And I know it’s hard when you are together 24hours a day, but indeed, you meet a lot of people thanks to the child, many people are nicer (sometimes ;-) ) because you are a mom with a little girl, at least that’s my experience. As you say, there are positive and negative aspects in every choice. Writing to you, I’m reviewing mentally all situations I went through (like being stuck in an airport at night cos our flight was cancelled) since she was born, and I realize it has made me thougher… :-) And indeed the tiger comes out of you when it comes to protect your child :-) And also creative ways, and maybe even if I’d be deadly sick out of a tropical disease, I’ll still manage to take care of her? or shout at someone to get her a meal or sthg… Who knows what lies within us… :-)
I know a grown up woman who got sexually assaulted when she was a young girl. The guy asked her to get undressed and very smartly she said: “in order for me to get undressed, you have to set my hands free”. And as soon as he did, she ran away. Recalling that moment, she found out that she had made the right decision at that very moment, and she made a promise to herself: to always take the right decision from then on in her life.
Maybe I should make a promise to myself: that whatever happens to us while travelling, I will always take the right decision ;-)

Do you have a post on your itinary?

All the best Marilia!!!

Yours sincerely,

Joan

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Marilia Di Cesare May 30, 2011 at 11:49 am

What a lovely comment Joan! Thank you.
I´m happy to help you get inspired for your trip. Sure being a single mom makes us tougher and capable of handling everything. Don´t worry too much about getting sick, you probably won´t. But if you do, you will find help around you. It can be the person running the place where you are staying, someone available that will offer help or even pay for help, like hiring a baby sitter-help lady. I´ve heard that it can be cheap to hire someone in SE Asia, and if you get sick, that could be an option.

I know people will accuse you of being crazy and they might have some influence in you, my advice is doing what I did, read lots of blogs of people doing what you want to do, listen to their advice (which will be to go for it), get inspired by ¨crazy¨ people.

Yeah, always making the right decision is a great advice, let´s try to apply this right now, you don´t need to wait for the trip and going on a trip is among the best decisions you´ll make.

I also highly suggest that you set a deadline to buy your tickets, so you can´t back off… And I don´t have any post on our itinerary (yet).

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Joan May 30, 2011 at 2:08 pm

Thank you so much for your lovely comment, Marilia!! I was so eager to read it I came every day to check out ;-)
Indeed, since I read your blog, I feel much more confident that my idea is valuable and that I can do it (Yes we can! ;-) ) And indeed let’s get “crazy”. I dropped once my well paid job and career to become a painter, sthg like 10 years ago! (crazy idea! ;-) ) I was full of doubts, someone wrote me: “if that’s what you want (whatever it is), just do it” It has become a very supportive motto in my life, and I apply it as often as I can.

Thank you also for the deadline for the tickets, EXCELLENT idea! I’ll need it! ;-) )

Talk to you soon, we’re sending you love and light from here

Joan & Ambre
PS: great also those argentian “moving gardens” that was one of my ideas actually! never knew it exists already :-) never knew either that “unschooling” exists! my mother’s a teacher, can you imagine how many criticisms she’s had (as well as my whole family) ever from the moment I didn’t put Ambre at school…. Now suddenly I realize that not only my idea is valuable, but many many people are feeling the same, and moreover it might be that indeed it’s the best I could do for my child (as I ever felt inside) So let’s unite all over the world, get crazy and rock the world! ;-) (Love the sentence of that chilean scientist!)

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