Non Traditional Student and Mom of 2… Not so easy!

The post title should really say it all. I’m at the end of my first semester as a “non-traditional” college student, meaning I’m an adult learner, not attending full-time on a typical class schedule, not alongside all those fresh-out-of-high-school students.

Nope, none of that. I go to a college where most of the students are in their late 20′s to 50′s, many of whom have families and work full-time jobs. The school offers a few online classes as well as “group study” classes which

The school offers a few online classes as well as “group study” classes which is like a shrunken classroom setting with maybe 4-5 students, but most of the courses are “guided independent study.”

These are courses in which a professor assigns a textbook and the student pretty much reads cover to cover by the end of the semester, with assignments and tests in between. There aren’t such things as midterms or finals.. but there are 10+ page research papers for almost each course.

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Summerhill School – Quotes from A.S. Neill on his living free school

The book Summerhill School – A New View to Childhood tells the experience and observations of  A.S. Neill running a free school in Suffolk, England for fifty years. The book was originally written in 1960, when Neill was 88-years old. It’s amazing to see the story of a school that was founded in 1921 on revolutionary principles for today.

When Neil died in 1973, his wife Ena took on the school for 12 years. The school is now run by their daughter Zoe.

The pupils are free to attend classes whenever they want. The kids can play for days, weeks or years. There’s freedom from any indoctrination, whether religious or moral or political and freedom from molding. And the pupils and staff self-govern the school through weekly meetings.

Neill admits some problems the school had too, bullying being the main one. He tells a few times how he would have liked to not take in problem-children that could disrupt the harmony of the younger simply because he knew that the problem-child would have no other better school (that could do him some good) to go to.

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The result of the 30-days-without-yelling-at-my daughter challenge

Jan 19, 17 The result of the 30-days-without-yelling-at-my daughter challenge

30 days colored and only 2 faults marked in my calendar. The purple days just mean I couldn’t find the blue pen.

I did it! Out of the 30-day challenge, I yelled only twice. So, let’s say I did it for 28 days, not straight… Anyway, I did make a shift to make this happen.

As I mentioned before, I have been trying to avoid getting mad at my daughter for quite a while (you can read more about my efforts here and here). I have been practicing some techniques (breathing, removing myself from the room, keeping quiet, talking to my daughter about my inner struggle), the biggest thing is really trying to get to the root of a problem and so it´s not like from hysterical mom I went to mindful mom in one day. It´s been a long process.

But the challenge is like a sort of graduation in my inner process.

In order to not yell, I’m learning to hold myself back, to not react to something that triggers my anger right away.

An example is when my daughter gets mad and threatens to throw things downstairs or on the floor (if they are breakable), or simply throws them.

She did this during my challenge. I saw her throwing this little mirror she has and a scissor.

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When schooling is good, it can be really awesome

You might have read me bitching about schooling on this blog before (at least on Why the school system is dangerous). I do think schooling is bad for our children when only the traditional systems and ignoring the children’s interests is behind the scenes.

Fortunately, there’s also good schooling. Some alternatives to the traditional schools are around, like Montessori, Waldorf, Reggio Emilia, The Sudbury School, Summerhill School and Homeschooling, you can find information on some of these inspired methods here (and please add any other you know in the comments section to spread the good information).

These schools usually have different and changeable curricula, age mixing, order and discipline (forget accusations on mere anarchy), values on education, holistic philosophies, pluralism and political neutrality.

When a school uses ideas of group learning and intrinsic motivation, I am all about it.

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The secret to keep a positive mindset at crazy times

Dec 01, 16 The secret  to keep a positive mindset at crazy times

Being pregnant and having my little girl all by myself taught me a lot of good things. The biggest of them is to remain positive no matter what.

“Pay attention only to what’s good and beautiful in life”

This was taught by a Japanese friend. He told me that in Japan, back in the day, when the emperor wife was pregnant, she was taken to a beautiful palace, where she would be surrounded by beautiful flowers and the best healthy food and kept safe from bad news.

The Japanese believe that what the mother feels, the baby feels too, so they are actually taking care of the baby. Making sure the baby only has good feelings.

When I heard this story it made all the sense to what I already felt like it could be happening (the baby felling all that I felt). So I avoided anything that would make me feel said, angry, frustrated or anything negative.

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Progress on Goals with the Exam prep

Reading: I Am Malala: The Girl Who Stood Up for Education and Was Shot by the Taliban – Malala Yousafzai with Christina Lamb; Seven Types of Ambiguity – Elliot Perlman
Playing: High School Story
Coding: Nothing
Working On: GED prep. I am helping my friend Gillian prepare for the GED language test. Next stage: Math. For both exams, we are using the Covcell website.
Thinking: That I need to find that article I’ve been looking for.
Feeling: Motivated, Inspired

I realize that nothing really has changed above but the GED…but have you tried to pass a GED practice test? It’s exhausting, even the simple language questions, it’s  an excellent exercise. If you don’t understand what I mean go to this website: Covcell.com and check it out. It’s not easy at all.

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