This is a good-bye post

by Marilia Di Cesare on November 29, 2012

I really enjoyed the 2,5 years that I wrote constantly here. I had great conversations through comments and emails. Tripping Mom made me look deep inside my parenting experience, but it´s time for me to take a break.

This all has been about traveling and parenting. Traveling alone with a small child is not always easy, and sometimes it is easy, but I don´t want to travel for a good while (though in my mind there´s Costa Rica, New Zealand, Indonesia and Sri Lanka for sometime in the future).

In my current routine there´s the thing I love doing more in the world: surfing. Besides this, I´m learning to dance hip hop with several other mamas, and I am working my flexible hours on different projects, so it´s good to be home.

And just as short on traveling stories I am short on parenting stories. I want to keep the private things more private. Two years of exposure is good enough.

For one thing, my daughter doesn´t like anyone to take pictures of her . Or talk about her. No praise, no criticism, nothing, she hates being judged or qualified in any way. ¨A kid¨ is so far the definition that doesn´t hurt her. If she had any idea of how much of her life I share with the world, she would not like it. And I often wonder: Is it really positive to put it all out there, my experience, my thoughts, my feelings?

I also don´t want to be part of the noise that is so abundant in our virtual world. I´d rather have you go out and play instead. Will it really encourage you to grow your own food if you see a picture of my tomatoes? Will you stop spoiling your kid if I do?

There´s one thing on my blog that you probably don´t find anywhere else, it´s my ability to talk about my failures, like here  and here and here. I hope this was useful stuff, when people could relate to being permissive or aggressive and had no one talking about it anywhere, but here they had and it´s comforting to know you are not alone.

But I don´t feel like writing about my failures anymore, or about the amazing things (like this or this or this). I just want to live them.

I might come back to the blog when I start traveling again, or with random posts when I get inspired, but for now, this is it.

I wanted to write for those of you who keep coming back for more. How lovely to have some loyal readers. It was for you that I kept writting (and for myself too). This blog is not big, and I never cared to have only 10 readers in the begginning (or around 300 now), it is thrilling to know that out there in the world there are people who care about what I write and that somehow they can benefit from my stories. This often made me feel a little famous and useful.

I want to thank all of you for stopping by and giving me your most precious gift which is time.

{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

Carla Sue Murata November 29, 2012 at 4:55 pm

Thank you for your posts throughout all these years.
It takes a lot of courage to raise a kid on your own and even more to expose yourself like you did.
I still don’t have kids of my own (someday soon I hope I will!) so everything you wrote down was new to me. As I read your posts I realised how complicated and yet wonderful it is to be a parent…
So thank you for sharing your life, your dillemas, your doubts, your thoughts, your anguishes, and all those precious moments.
I will miss reading about you and Luisa here…
Love,
Carla.

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Mafalda November 29, 2012 at 6:16 pm

All the best for your life !!
And thank you so much for your honest, no crap and open minded posts!
I have never commented but I have enjoyed a lot to read and learn with what you wrote.
Hope to read you again one day when you decide that it’s time to write.

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Violeta November 30, 2012 at 8:02 am

I will miss your posts. I wish you and Luisa only the best, and a journey filled with wonder.

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Em December 2, 2012 at 8:42 pm

Thanks for all your honesty and time, as well. I’ll miss you!

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Faustyna December 3, 2012 at 1:28 am

I have never commented here, but always was looking forward to read your posts. I totally understand your decision, though already know I will miss you both, girls. You has been of an inspiration and real help for me, thank you for this blog. Wishing you all the best.

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gina December 5, 2012 at 9:26 pm

Hi Marilia, I’ve never posted a comment, but I’ve been checking in to your blog for the last year or so. I’ve really enjoyed the honesty and passion you’ve shared in this space. Your posts about feeling like you’ve failed have helped buoy me up in dark moments, and your posts about successes have given me smiles. My children HATE me talking about them, so I feel your sensitivity about finishing your blogging – I hope it’s just for a while! Thank you, Gina.

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Greg January 16, 2013 at 7:54 pm

Bye :( best wishes

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Adriana February 12, 2013 at 5:07 pm

I am a single mom, too. My daughter is 1,7 years old. When I felt I need some inspiration or to get wings to do something for and with my daughter, I have just read some of your articles.
Your readers were privileged for having shared your personal thoughts, I am sure that most of us see a positive model in life, especially the single mamas.

I will miss you, but I don’t want to transform this post in a tearful one!
I know you make the best decisions for you and Luisa! Live your life at its most and feel good!!!!
Many kisses!

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Jo June 5, 2013 at 12:19 pm

Since meeting you in SJDS, Nicaragua, I have followed your blog. As you recall, I too am a single mama & have admired your courage to travel solo with Luisa & the choices you made for her. Most of all I loved how genuine your blog was. Be well & I look forward to a post some time in the future. If you’re ever in Canada, drop by :)

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Marília June 6, 2013 at 7:12 am

Thank you all for the sweet comments!

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Disgruntled April 7, 2014 at 4:21 am

Just came across your blog and very inspiring to me- it is easy to be swayed by those around you saying ‘you can’t do that!’ but you have followed a great, wonderful and inspiring path- I hope life is going well for you now x

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