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Christmas 2017

I´m not religious. I don’t really mind if there´s a God. Officially, I don’t celebrate Christmas. But, probably 99% of the people I know do, so I always end up in a Christmas party, with or without presents. So this year, we put up a Christmas Tree!

Luísa only had 4 Christmas in her life, 2 of which she went to bed at her usual 6 pm time and me at 9 pm. The other two, we had dinner with people and not any exchange of presents or Christmas tree or typical Christmas tree or climate. But a lot of the human exchange that it’s so amazing.

I don’t even talk about the subject with her (Christmas), it kind of doesn’t exist for us.

Only that it does. The 24th, we will be working at a volunteer lunch as usual. Only that this Saturday it will be a special dinner with maybe more than 100 people and everyone receiving presents. Luísa will take a present and receive one, it might be the first she relates to the word ¨Christmas¨ (although she probably received presents at Christmas before from her grandma).

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Significant Questions To Ask Yourself in Life

The weekend is almost over, so take some time out and answer some completely pointless questions!!

How much does getting old bother you?
What year of your life did you waste?
How do you choose what books to read?
What news story has made your blood boil this week?
Have you ever broken a window?
Do you forgive and forget?
Gay rights – discuss?
Have your parents ever been disappointed in you?
When did you last travel by train?

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Give kids space

Aug 27, 17 Give kids space

I had two couple of friends coming to visit from Chile.

They were eager to meet my 5-year old, and I could take the chance to meet them first and tell them a little about how to deal with her.

¨She doesn´t like to be called a princess, beautiful, or ugly. She doesn’t like any attention from strangers. She won´t say hello or goodbye, I´m sorry if she looks uneducated at first, she is just really sensible to meeting new people. Don´t even think about touching her¨.

They understood, as they are parents of grown children and had their own stories on the matter.

Then, we picked Luísa up and went for a pizza. As expected, Luísa didn’t talk to them or look at them much. When she asked for the salt and one of them passed it, she said in a low voice: ¨Mom, I asked YOU for the salt¨.  Usually, she won´t take anything from a stranger´s hand.

My friend apologized: ¨I´m sorry, I won´t bother you anymore.¨

It was a pleasant night, and soon Luísa was sleeping in my lap.

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Progress on Goals with the Exam prep

Jun 11, 17 Progress on Goals with the Exam prep

Reading: I Am Malala: The Girl Who Stood Up for Education and Was Shot by the Taliban – Malala Yousafzai with Christina Lamb; Seven Types of Ambiguity – Elliot Perlman
Playing: High School Story
Coding: Nothing
Working On: GED prep. I am helping my friend Gillian prepare for the GED language test. Next stage: Math. For both exams, we are using the Best GED Classes website.
Thinking: That I need to find that article I’ve been looking for.
Feeling: Motivated, Inspired

I realize that nothing really has changed above but the GED…but have you tried to pass a GED practice test? It’s exhausting, even the simple language questions, it’s  an excellent exercise. If you don’t understand what I mean go to this website: Best GED Classes (link above) and check it out. It’s not easy at all.

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Non Traditional Student and Mom of 2… Not so easy!

The post title should really say it all. I’m at the end of my first semester as a “non-traditional” college student, meaning I’m an adult learner, not attending full-time on a typical class schedule, not alongside all those fresh-out-of-high-school students.

Nope, none of that. I go to a college where most of the students are in their late 20′s to 50′s, many of whom have families and work full-time jobs. The school offers a few online classes as well as “group study” classes which

The school offers a few online classes as well as “group study” classes which is like a shrunken classroom setting with maybe 4-5 students, but most of the courses are “guided independent study.”

These are courses in which a professor assigns a textbook and the student pretty much reads cover to cover by the end of the semester, with assignments and tests in between. There aren’t such things as midterms or finals.. but there are 10+ page research papers for almost each course.

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Summerhill School – Quotes from A.S. Neill on his living free school

The book Summerhill School – A New View to Childhood tells the experience and observations of  A.S. Neill running a free school in Suffolk, England for fifty years. The book was originally written in 1960, when Neill was 88-years old. It’s amazing to see the story of a school that was founded in 1921 on revolutionary principles for today.

When Neil died in 1973, his wife Ena took on the school for 12 years. The school is now run by their daughter Zoe.

The pupils are free to attend classes whenever they want. The kids can play for days, weeks or years. There’s freedom from any indoctrination, whether religious or moral or political and freedom from molding. And the pupils and staff self-govern the school through weekly meetings.

Neill admits some problems the school had too, bullying being the main one. He tells a few times how he would have liked to not take in problem-children that could disrupt the harmony of the younger simply because he knew that the problem-child would have no other better school (that could do him some good) to go to.

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The result of the 30-days-without-yelling-at-my daughter challenge

Jan 19, 17 The result of the 30-days-without-yelling-at-my daughter challenge

30 days colored and only 2 faults marked in my calendar. The purple days just mean I couldn’t find the blue pen.

I did it! Out of the 30-day challenge, I yelled only twice. So, let’s say I did it for 28 days, not straight… Anyway, I did make a shift to make this happen.

As I mentioned before, I have been trying to avoid getting mad at my daughter for quite a while (you can read more about my efforts here and here). I have been practicing some techniques (breathing, removing myself from the room, keeping quiet, talking to my daughter about my inner struggle), the biggest thing is really trying to get to the root of a problem and so it´s not like from hysterical mom I went to mindful mom in one day. It´s been a long process.

But the challenge is like a sort of graduation in my inner process.

In order to not yell, I’m learning to hold myself back, to not react to something that triggers my anger right away.

An example is when my daughter gets mad and threatens to throw things downstairs or on the floor (if they are breakable), or simply throws them.

She did this during my challenge. I saw her throwing this little mirror she has and a scissor.

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